Tuesday, May 15, 2012

365 Days Of Love. Day 82


In (vain) efforts to assuage anxiety about the ending school year and all the fiascos such an end entails, I’ve been embarking on mini projects. Last weekend, I packed up everything in my house that isn’t necessary to live the next three weeks. My walls are no longer covered with decorations and my room lacks any sort of eclectic feel it had prior to my packing session. I’ve been running more, applying for jobs, cooking, and generally keeping occupied with anything that seems even mildly entertaining.

Last night, after clearing my writing table of books and post-its, I stared in disgust at the chipping paint (resulting mostly from my ill-attempt to restore it two summers ago) and littered spots of white and red from past owners. I considered the time and remaining minutes of daylight and concluded that I could start (yet another) restoration on the table by sanding the mild mishaps left over from my impatience previous paint job. My roommate offered me her sanding block and I carried the table outside and imagined a “restoration station” behind my parked Honda Element in our mini carport. As soon as I started sanding, admiring the arm muscles such movements evoked, my little neighbor girl, Janelly, ran over to investigate.

I’m unaware of details surrounding the condition Janelly has, but she’s unable to speak beyond making glottal type sounds and her face offers the remains of some sort of reconstructive surgery, particularly in the mouth region. Despite our inability to communicate with words, Janelly and I have shared many hugs and there seems to be an innate bond between her and I (and anyone she comes in contact with, really). When she met me in my restoration station, we hugged quickly and in a few words and lots of hand movements I tried to explain to her the project I was attempting. She nodded in smiled as if she understood, pointed to some rough spots of the table, parked herself within an arm’s distance from me, and stuck her ears with earphones and started listening to Justin Beiber from her IPad

As I sanded, she made noises that I’m certain were songlike to her. I listened intently to the songs through her IPad and tried to guess what song she was listening to. When my efforts proved fruitless, my ears turned to the sounds Janelly was making and the beauty of innocence from the mouth such sounds came. At one point, a mom and her daughter walked into our apartment complex. Noticing them, Janelly greeted them with the same enthusiasm she greeted me with earlier. Then, we assumed our positions again, her close to me listening to JB and me, slowly sanding.

I’d look up every few moments and Janelly would be moving her arms, mimicking music videos that I’m certain she watches. Sometimes, she would point to areas on the table that I needed to re-sand or comment (by making her signature sound) at a multi-colored area of table that contained natural wood, white primer, red (from the past owner), and blue paint (from me). Each critique she offered, either by sound or pointing, made me smile. I appreciated the honesty that she offered, the genialness of her efforts. 

As the sun set and my arms grew too fatigued to sand anymore, I looked at Janelly and motioned that I would be returning inside. She smiled, sounded her signature goodbye, and outstretched her arms for one more hug. She walked next to me to my door and as I ungracefully lugged the table back into our half packed apartment, she pranced like Tinkerbell to another neighbor at the end of the complex.

I so admire the innocence Janelly approaches people and situations with. Unlike some of my other neighbors, her company wasn’t coupled with 21 questions about my project nor a desire to help or contribute. Rather, she was happy to jam out to Justin while watching me smooth rough patches on an old table.  During sanding respites, I took comfort in her crooked smile and jenky dance moves, wishing I could be so uninhibited, so absolutely enjoying simple moments in life, so trusting of people and my surroundings. Janelly reminded me that life is seen through the lens of our created perspective and we are in control of the power of that lens.

My sweet neighbor, unable to talk and lacking the physical features culture would deem beautiful, taught me that loving is choosing to approach life through a lens of innocent exploration and ultimate trust. 

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